I work for a company that is going through significant change. Change for the positive and change that is necessary. When I look around me I realise I'm not alone. Many of my friends and colleagues are also working through change within their companies. Change brings uncertainty for us and left unchecked it can affect our wellbeing. Here are some thoughts that help me stay positive of mindset.
Mindset – We often hear that human behaviour is very complex, I’m going to suggest the opposite and that it’s actually very simple. From my research there are two things you can do in order to optimise a positive mindset for a healthy you.
1. Give yourself certainty & find the positivity in change 2. Tell yourself - You are enough
One core, basic human need is certainty, and as you know we live in a world and have a life that is ever changing and hugely uncertain. A key reason we are anxious when we are in change is because we are hard wired to react to loss or expect the negativity that can accompany change.
How we react to events in our day, like morning traffic, a tough day at work, a disagreement with a loved one or we just simply woke up feeling flat is down to just two things and two things only. The pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.
A powerful way to give yourself certainty and address that basic human need is to look for the positive in whatever is happening for you in the moment it’s happening. This morning traffic sucks, but I’m grateful for the opportunity to listen to this song or podcast or notice this fabulous day. Work was tough today but hey, I have a job and of course some days are going to be harder than others – that’s ok.
The reality is that no matter how bad things are for us, we can be sure there are others who would dream of having the life we lead. Stuck in traffic – I wish I could afford a car. Difficult day at work – if only I had a job. Argument with a loved one – I’d do anything to be in a relationship. I’m feeling flat today – I hope I can walk again after this back surgery. When we stop to consider the alternatives, there is always a way to frame our situations differently, positively.
Saying “I am enough’ is powerful. I am good enough, I am smart enough, choose and insert a new word that suits your situation but know that you are enough. What you say and what you picture in your head becomes your reality too. If you imagine yourself failing or tell yourself, you are not good enough – it’s likely to be the outcome. Your brain is unable to distinguish between that statement and an alternative positive one -it can only react on what you choose to tell it so you may as well tell it something that benefits you.
“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, habits become your values, your values become your destiny” Mahatma Gandhi
Concluding this article then, if I feel myself spiral on a negative thought I take a deep breath and seek to redress my thoughts in the moment. with practice this becomes easier.
To your continued future health, success and happiness.